Menopause Scares Society

I’ve been pondering recently on my journey through menopause and beyond and here’s a few thoughts I had while enjoying my morning coffee.

Menopause Scares Society…

Not Because We Dry Up, But Because We Wake Up

Somewhere along the way, menopause became a diagnosis, a medical event to be managed, medicated, and kept quiet. We were told to brace ourselves, to prepare for the decline, to grin and bear it. The language alone says so much: symptoms, deficiency, loss.

But what if that’s the biggest lie of all?

What if menopause doesn’t silence us, what if it amplifies us?

For me, and for so many women I’ve had the honour of walking beside, menopause has been a powerful unravelling, and a profound awakening. It’s not a tidy process. It doesn’t come with a manual. It asks for honesty, release, and the kind of courage that only comes when we’ve run out of energy to keep performing the old roles.

Because somewhere in the middle of the sleepless nights, the hot flushes, and the waves of emotion, something remarkable begins to happen.

We stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks.

We stop people-pleasing.

We stop shrinking to fit.

We stop apologising for wanting a sex life that’s more intimate and tailored to our changing body, our boundaries, our brilliance.

We start telling the truth, not the polished, palatable truth, but the raw, embodied kind that rearranges everything it touches.

And suddenly, we can see where we’ve been disappearing.

The parts of ourselves that went quiet in order to stay loved.

The voices we softened to avoid conflict.

The desires we buried because they made others uncomfortable.

Menopause brings all of that to the surface.

It’s a reckoning, not with our bodies, but with the ways we’ve abandoned them. And once we’ve seen it, we can’t unsee it.

This isn’t the end of our relevance.

It’s the end of disappearing.

And that’s exactly what scares society.

Because a woman who has stopped disappearing is a force.

She doesn’t waste her energy performing politeness or pretending to be fine. She speaks from her body, from truth, from knowing, from lived experience.

She says no without guilt and yes without hesitation.

She stops trying to be “balanced” and becomes aligned instead.

There’s something wild and beautiful in that kind of freedom.

It doesn’t fit neatly inside the cultural narrative of ageing, where youth is worshipped and older women are quietly ushered to the sidelines.

But women in menopause are not fading, we’re coming into view.

In my Fembodiment work, I see this awakening again and again.

When women reconnect with the intelligence of their bodies, the rhythms, the sensuality, the truth that lives in their pelvis and hearts, something reclaims itself.

Pleasure returns, not just as sexuality, but as aliveness.

Energy begins to flow again, not because the hormones are “fixed,” but because the woman herself is no longer suppressing who she is.

Menopause isn’t the end of your vitality.

It’s the end of self-abandonment.

It’s the point where the performance drops away, and what’s left is unfiltered power.

This is why menopause scares society, not because women dry up, but because we wake up.

Because we start living from the inside out instead of the outside in.

Because we become impossible to manipulate with fear, shame, or the promise of approval.

The world doesn’t quite know what to do with women like that, but I do.

I see them as the wisdom keepers, the culture-shifters, the women who remember what inner power feels like when it’s no longer hidden under exhaustion, perfectionism, or politeness.

So, if you’re moving through this chapter, know this you’re not disappearing. You’re emerging. You’re becoming more visible, more grounded, more authentic.

The path might be messy, but it’s exquisitely alive.

Let yourself be undone. Let yourself be re-formed by your own truth.

Because what rises in its place is nothing short of extraordinary.

I know I speak from a lived embodied place these days.

Jenni Mears - Holistic Sexologist, Clinical Hypnotherapist & Teacher of The Fembodiment™️ Method Facilitator Certification.