5 Ways to Practice Slow Pleasure

In my own experience solo or with another pleasure is so healing.

In our current times that glorifies speed, busyness, achievement, and getting to the “end goal,” pleasure often becomes something we rush, a quick fix, a fleeting moment before we move on to the next thing.

But our bodies, especially as women, were never designed for fast food pleasure. We are slow blooming creatures, wired for ripening, unfolding, and layering sensation. Slow pleasure is the art of letting your nervous system catch up to your body, of honouring the exquisite truth that the journey is the destination.

Here are five ways Fembodiment™️ style to bring slow pleasure into your everyday life, whether in the bedroom, your morning ritual, or simply the way you breathe.

1. Begin Before You Begin

Slow pleasure starts long before any physical touch. Let yourself anticipate. Anticipation builds the fertile ground where desire grows. This could be wearing something that feels delicious on your skin, lighting a candle with full attention, or giving yourself time to prepare your space so it feels like an invitation.

2. Breathe Like You Have All the Time in the World

Your breath is the bridge between your mind and body. Try inhaling for a slow count of four, holding for two, and exhaling for six or more. Imagine each breath sweeping away urgency, leaving only spaciousness. This pace tells your body, We’re safe. We can soften. We can open.

3. Touch with Curiosity, Not Agenda

Whether it’s your own body or a lover’s, let your touch be a question, not a command. Explore textures, pressures, and temperatures. Stroke the inside of your wrist as if it’s the first time you’ve met it. The aim isn’t to get somewhere, but to discover what’s already there.

4. Savour the Micro-Moments

Slow pleasure lives in the smallest details: the sound of your lover’s breath, the way your tea warms your tongue, the ripple of your belly when you laugh. Pause to notice not just intellectually, but with your whole body. Sensation expands when it’s witnessed.

5. Let Go of the Finish Line

Slow pleasure isn’t about building toward a single peak; it’s about riding wave after wave. Remove orgasm (or any end result) as the “goal” and notice what happens when you stay present in the swell. This is where time stretches, and your pleasure becomes infinite.

Why This Matters

Practicing slow pleasure isn’t just an indulgence, it’s a reclamation. It’s saying no to the culture that has taught women to rush, perform, or people,please. It’s choosing instead to inhabit your body fully, on your terms, in your time.

Pleasure, when slowed down, becomes not just an act but a state of being. And from this place, you are magnetic to life, to love, and to yourself.

Jenni Mears - Holistic Sexologist, Clinical Hypnotherapist & Teacher of The Fembodiment™️ Method Facilitator Certification.